Recently, some friends of mine,became involved with Internet Dating Sites. You know "The MATCH whatever.coms"
Having personally never explored these type of services, I went on a few to see what they were all about.
After looking at some of the photos that are posted to the site, I saw mostly ordinary people, who would never be found on the cover of GQ or Vogue. I did not except to find super models. I excepted every day people, who were looking for, friendship and maybe, the beginning of a relationship. This is a nice way for middle age,middle america to meet each other. So, I was not surprised. Middle America is what is is.
What did suprise me, however, was the profiles that were posted. I was outradged by the demands set forth by these people, in regards to what they excepted from a potential new friend,date,or mate.
I have to say I was horrified at what I was reading. I was outright appalled to find thousands of, self righteous, self centered, vain, out of control people. The profiles demanded, that the potential date, meet this over the top criteria. A task that Brad Pitt, Julia Roberts, or any of today's Pop or Movie Star could NOT possible meet.
I am guessing most of people who have paid for this " On Line Dating Service" are the same people, who could not conduct an intelligent or impromptu converation with a real person at the supermarket, even if they were paid to do it. I am betting that if these people could conduct a conversation they would be anoying to anyone who meets them. I bet most of people posting these ridiculous demands, have brought to life their, Bi polar Alter Ego Fantsties thru these profiles.It is my guess that their ego is the one waiting for a date with the perfect 10.
I guess that most of these people sit around, day after day, disappointed that they did not get the responses from the perfect man or women back.
I am also guessing, that these people see no flaws in their own personality.
In my imiganation, I see these people who if they met "Atilla The Hun" and Atilla growled and pointed at them,they would be riveted by his candor and Atilla would be new love of their life.
These sites have produced a bizarre culture. It has turned, shy or socialy unskilled people, into Little EGO MONSTERS.
It is crazy, that people who have not learned how to socially function in the world, now sit home,on line, demanding a Ego Driven Laundry List of Items from strangers who are just like them. Knowing that they can get away with this persona Only online, but never in person.
These sites also attempt to qualify human beings as you would house or car shopping. It is all very silly.
Here is my new ROXIEMATCH.com
You are required to post photos of PETS ONLY.
If you don't have a pet.- I bet you have a life & this match site is not for you.
You are required to Post Only what your Pet would want from a new Friend or lover. - Pets Really don't care if we have a wart on our nose, or are over 45 with gray hair .
This would be a better way to start meeting friends and getting a realtionship started, than these silly Ego Driven Internet Whore House Dating Service Profiles.
Come on.
Most people want to mate and marry. Or at least not die alone!
( Well most of us who have not done it before)
We all want a Rich, secure person with a endless Trust Fund as a mate, One with the the body of a god or goddess.
Who would turn down A REAL 10? But, what 10 wants a 5?
But alas, REALITY!. Despite what your mother told you about how special you are, we are all only 4's & 5's (at best)
So Keep it Real! Know who you are!
Know that you can be happy with some one who is not PERFECT.
cuz, We are not Perfect.
We all have some affliction or something that is not appealing:
Fat arms,
Skinny Arms
Age Lines,
Wrinkes,
Big feet,
Balding
Back Hair,
Female mustache,
Gray Hair,
Skinny legs,
Sagging Tits,
Small Penis
Fat Ass
Scars
Under Eye Bags
Bad Skin
Ugly Teeth
We all have one or more of the the above.
But that don't make us bad people. Does it.?
Most of us are Not Frankinstin. Most of us are not Model Material either. It would be good if your perfect match didn't have 2 Heads,and 1 ear.
I think most of us can fit that criteria.
It is better to "Be Real" and find compassion and happiness with people that are interesting. Yet Flawed. It is better to form solid relationships, with a flawed person that to live ,a live a lie pretending to be a Perfect person. Cuz, NO ONE IS PERFECT.
LETS GE T REAL - Beautiful Rich People, very seldom find love with the normal common folk. It is an nice story. But it don't happen that often. We are simply not intresting enough for them. Beauty or Not. We just don't have the same common denomators.
Here are things that I think are more important to know about people.
What makes them laugh.
What makes them cry.
What stimulates them outside the bedroom.
(FYI: Good Sex is something that is learned and practiced. If you don't practice at it your probely not that good at it. So, Stop lying to yourself.)
Do they have a clean bathroom.
Do they have a good heart
Do they have solid morals
Are they nice to animals.
Are they good to their friends.
Are they there when you need them.
Sex and Living with another person can be learned!
Being Fun, Friendly and Intresting and Truly a Good and Caring person with companion, is what friends and relationships are all about.
I don't really care what anyone looks like, I just care what is in there heart. We should not judg the book by its cover.
LOVE YA ALL
ROXIE